Pets & Kids

kids and puppies

Above: Nine-year-old masters how to properly hold a puppy.

Over the weekend I got to go visit a litter of puppies that I first met seven weeks ago.

The entourage on the expedition included a grandma, a mom, a 9-year-old, a two-year-old and me.

Needless to say, I believed it was going to be entertaining.

At seven weeks of age, the puppies were very active and very mouthy and paired with kids under the age of nine means that usually it is a circus.

But I was happily surprised.

The nice thing about the entire group was that everyone was relaxed and so not much was an issue.

This situation was the exception rather than the rule since, in many cases, pet parents get into trouble by being lax about monitoring the kids and dogs.

I liked that both of the females allowed the kids to wander and let them work out some of the details during their interactions on their own but that an adult was at the peripheries to intervene if necessary.

One puppy immediately took a liking to the small child because he was just her size and she gazed calmly and amorously up at him.

She was so calm that it alarmed me because that is not normal puppy behavior!

All the pups liked the kids because they were closer to their size and active–which can be a problem in some households simply because the activity escalates and feeds back and forth between the children and the dog.

It often will continue to escalate until someone ends up in tears or the parent puts a stop to the cycle.

puppy socialization and redirection

Above: Ark Lady redirects part of the puppy swarm to a squeaky, chew toy.

In this particular case, the kids grew up with a dog and so were not naive.

They actually had a skill set to help them deal with the six active delinquents.

I liked the fact they knew to get up on a chair to escape the pups.

This was a great change from the children I often see squeal or run and then trigger escalated play response from the puppies.

Kids under the age of ten simply do not have the skills or restraint to deal with pets on their own.

At one point the two-year-old was suddenly surrounded by puppies but he did not panic and put his back against the fence to support himself.

This was a good skill (be a tree) and worked until mom could scoop him up in her arms.

I find most kids that young usually cannot restrain themselves to follow instructions given to them previously and most don’t have the opportunity to practice.

Although very tall for his age, the older child was within the norms of the age group–very active and not able to contain his urges to move.

He actively ran and jumped so that all the puppies followed and once he got them amped up–he escaped by using the chair.

What was interesting about the afternoon session was to watch how the kids behaved around another species so that everyone remained safe–even in chaos.

At first, the older child cuddled one puppy incorrectly but then, with some guidance, realized that the puppy should be handled so that it was supported and so it could breath easily instead of upside down and cuddled to the chest.

It was a great socialization session for the puppies and for the kids.

Plus, everyone got sufficiently dirty and tired.

More people should make the effort to make sure their puppies and kids get exposed to each other in safe conditions–it benefits everyone in the long term.

And, as predicted, all youngsters of both species hit the hay early for a good night of sleep!

Pet Parenting vs Pet Training

pet parenting or pet training

Many of you know that I am currently seeking funding for the pet parenting school, an online animal school to help keep companion animals in their homes and out of shelters.

Someone recently left a comment that they didn’t know the difference between pet parenting and pet training.

That is the point. People don’t know about pet parenting which is why animals end up in shelters.

Pet parenting is a lifestyle adjustment and coaching that takes place before formal training starts.

Yes, pet training can be part of an entire program but the problem is that people keep making the same mistakes and animals keep ending up without homes because they cycle hasn’t been broken.

Although a lot of people think the information is getting out to the masses, it clearly isn’t.

If it was, most people would be prepared for the animal that enters their home.

They aren’t.

If people had the info they needed they wouldn’t be lamenting about how their pet does X or Y and how it is making them crazy.

Lamenting over puppy or kitten behaviors and the challenges faced because of puppyhood or kittenhood wouldn’t be so common.

The problem people encounter is that their idea of warm and fluffy actually meets the reality of pet ownership when an animal enters the home.

Personally, I know that the reason all babies (of any species) survive is because they are so cute.

It literally saves their butt for a time, until they get older and people get less tolerant.

Take the guy down the street from my friend who just gave away his fifth dog in five years.

Each time the family gets enamored by young puppy they bring it home.

They do nothing to help it adapt to life with humans and reach the end of their rope by the time the animal hits five to six months of age.

Then they hit the, “I can’t deal with this any more” phase and get rid of the animal.

Only to repeat the same process the following year.

I wish I could say this issue is rare but it really isn’t.

There is the problem–it is a cycle.

In this situation, the problem isn’t finances, it is lack of motivation and knowledge.

The problem is with priorities and the failure to understand that it only takes consistent effort and guidelines to keep that animal in the home.

But, the other problem is that most people are not motivated to get the info they need early enough.

It isn’t a training problem, it is a lifestyle problem.

It is an early pet education problem.

So, if you could get the information you needed when you needed it–even if it was at 2am–would you get it? Would you use it?

Hopefully you said yes–and that is the goal of the pet parenting school.

  • Get the answers when you need them.
  • Get the info nobody else is giving you.
  • Save yourself and others a whole lot of anguish before it escalates and the animal ends up in a shelter or on the streets.

Tell me, how that is the same as training? Be sure to sign up for the advance notice for the pet parenting school.

Photo Credit: Alex J Tam